She pointed out after I referred to Cheryl as "spunky" that no one would ever call a man "spunky." She also mentioned "bustling," in reference to an article she read about a female CEO. I mentioned feisty, which is about my least favorite word ever; it refers to a woman who shows spirit but no power; it's a diminutive disguised as a compliment, and it reinforces a man's position of power over the "feisty" woman. It's a sort of "oh, how cute, the kitten has claws" situation, and it makes me so mad.
We couldn't really think of similarly disempowering words used toward men, which makes sense. Men aren't thought of as inherently lesser; when one wants to degrade a man, one calls him a woman.
What other words fall into this pattern?